Not enough or just not much to care about?

What I can remember, during my relationships I only recieved...let me count... ZERO flowers for just beeing that nice girlfriend and about two flowers when it was some holiday or guys screwed up on something, like a bribe. Now I count from ALL my relationships, not just each on for it self.

Have I missed something or am I just stuck in the, I dont know, 1950's? everyone is affraid to show feelings, to tell the person they like that they like them and without any thoughts give them something small, but special, cause that person is special too.. and NOT wanting anything back in reward.

Where did the "i'll-take-care-of-you" boys go? Where did the girly girly girls go? Everything for me now is a huge BLÖH blur. You see that everything is backwards! Girls are the strong one's and guys are taking them for granted.

"Well you know that I love you, do you really need to hear that all the time and do I really need to buy you gifts that you would feels it?? YES!!! YES you NEED to do that!!! YES, YES and YES again.
You know why? It takes two to tango. If you do not want to or too lazy to put effort in a relationship, why bother to have any?

It's all wrong to me now. Sex was tabu in the 50's and it was all about feelings, about how to make the other person happy. Now it's all about sex and feelings are tabu. NOW it's all about how to make the other person come billion times in the period of 10 minutes.

I repeat: Why bother if you dont want to make an effort for the full game? Why? Why, why why?

I answer: Dont bother at all if you do not feel that you want to do things for that girl. Dont bother if you only after sex. Dont bother if you think that kisses and orgasms are enough to make her understand what you feel.

It's not enough. And you are not enough if you wont make an effort. Not for any girls..not me..

ALL girls and me need that extra comment on how my hair looks or that my eyes are beautiful, or that I look cute in the morning, even though I look horrible. We all need to be spoiled sometimes and feel that we are special. We all need that something extra, that effort..

Where did it go? I want the effort.. I need the effort..


PS. Never say such thing to me again. Never.